This is the first stream of consciousness about Sacred Marriage, written on a cold winter's night in early February 2014. When I began writing my royal cats, Prince and Princess came to sit at the foot of my wooden chair, while I wrote by a little lamplight at my desk. Prince came closer to witness my work, sitting alert at the edge of my writing pad.
The purpose of a love relationship is to deepen the relationship to spirit in oneself and with the other. Spirit is unconditional love. Marriage is a comittment to the growth and upliftment of the two individuals and together as a partnership.
Commitment requires:
a daily renewal to love
Love is a verb.
Love is free of resentment, guilt, fears, hatred
Love is being at peace and acceptance.
Two people come together to learn from each other to grow as individuals: emotionally, spiritually, intellectually for deeper understanding.
Fundamentals upon which a marriage thrives...
^ Abundance: We live in an abundant universe of which each one is part
^ Infinite Possibilities: There are ALWAYS answers and solutions far beyond what the mind can fathom
^ Trust: therefore to thrive we must let go of our fears
^ Agreements: We honor agreements unless we communicate our need to change those agreements
^ Responsible Communication: communication free of abusive behaviors. Communication from the heart and our feelings
^ Listening without judgement: Listening as if in the other's shoes, without commentary
^ Seeking to Transform Ones Own Limitations: asking ones self: Where am I fearful, angry, resentful, anxious, etc.
^ Taking time to be alone with oneself: to reflect
Two people coming together are like two strong trees that proveide shade for each other yet also for themselves. For each one is only as strong as it continues to receive sunlight and manner of sustenance and nurturing.
As long as these two trees maintain individual integrity and mutual respect for the 'other's' individuality, yet make agreements to the satisfaction of both, continuing to nurture each other with playfulness, acknowlegement and renewing love and appreciation. Both making an equal effort.
Then this marriage of two trees can be a haven for life, young and old around themselves, to thrive and to grow.
A marriage relationship like any other, thrives only as long as both people continue to love...It can never be set aside or taken for granted.
Sacred marriage is not based upon the ambition for money accumulation, conveniences, or solving problems. It's basis is solely, wholly and completely for the sake of creation. Creating something new and different and beneficial to humankind.
If we didn't create, then the juice of life would dry up.
To love each other is not enough. For marriage without sacred purpose withers and dies. It must have a channel of focus: some project, wherein both partners have a vested interest and find it fun. ( will speak about projects in future posts)
To be continued!
